Love conquers all except for one thing – distance. There’s been so much controversy about long distance relationships (LDR) and whether they work or not. Some people don’t mind being in an LDR while others prefer being close to their loved ones. Let’s take a look at both sides of the situation.
Why an LDR can fail
One reason why people get into relationships is to have someone who will be there for them through everything. They don’t want to be lonely and so they get into a relationship with someone else. In long distance relationships, you’ll be on your own, physically speaking, for quite some time.
A lot of people say that LDRs don’t give the kind of connection that a couple can get if they’re physically together. It’s also hard to provide support when the person isn’t there.
Long distance relationships can fail because communication isn’t the same as regular relationships where you can be with the person physically and your relationship could actually grow.
Why an LDR can work
Although a long distance relationship has its own downsides, still a lot of people say that it can work. They say that because the relationship relies on communication a lot for it to work, the couple will eventually build strong communication. Also, it doesn’t make them dependent on the other, which is very common in typical relationships. When a relationship becomes very dependent on physical facets, it can easily fail once the couple spends time apart from each other.
How to make an LDR work
Be patient. You’ll have to wait for the person to return. Patience is essential for an LDR to work. If you don’t have this virtue, you’ll easily give up on the relationship.
Value the relationship. It isn’t easy to be in a long distance relationship. You can only make it work if you value it. If you don’t value your LDR, it’s best to part ways and accept that this setup isn’t right for the two of you.
Be mature. For you to sustain an LDR, you have to think maturely. If all you care about is yourself, then don’t get into a long distance relationship.
Don’t focus on physical aspects. If you need your significant other to be by your side all the time, an LDR can make you miserable. If you’re too focused on physical aspects, your relationship won’t have a chance.
Although long distance relationships are hard to keep, it doesn’t mean that they will always fail. They’re like any other relationship out there that has problems. These issues are merely different from one couple to the other. If there’s a person that has captured your heart and is leaving for quite some time, give the relationship a try. Don’t give up too easily. Your long distance relationship may still work. And if it does, you’ll be very happy that you decided to give it a shot.